The magic words that trigger an orgasm every time

Every female lead in a rom-com seems to be able to conjure one up as soon as her lover throws her up against the wall or onto a bed in a moment of passion.

But let's be honest, we all know that our special man friend doesn't always hit the spot.

And so, just like Meg Ryan's iconic deli performance in When Harry Met Sally, we women have truly mastered the art of faking it.

We nod, we smile, we assure them that we had a lovely time, and say 'Oh yes, I sure did climax.' But did we? Did we really? Spoiler alert, all too often we did not.

Men, I know you will fight me on this. You have before. You regularly race to my DMs to tell me your lady reaches the big O. Every. Single. Time. (Sure, Greg.)

So, imagine if the secret to consistently 'getting there' could be found in something as simple as two little words.

Well, buckle up ladies and gents because I'm here to tell you it can.

There is a secret to consistently 'getting there' could be found in something as simple as two little words

Just like Meg Ryan's iconic deli performance in When Harry Met Sally, we women have truly mastered the art of faking it

I made this pleasing discovery with a particular French barman. Now, admittedly he had a couple of things working in his favor.

One, he was French. Two, he was very good at slow foreplay. No quick grope and a grunt before getting straight down to business. This man took his time and put my needs ahead of his.

But three, and this was the game changer, he leaned into my 'praise kink.'

For those of you who have never heard of this very specific kink, take note because it's a doozy.

It refers to anyone who gets off on being told how good or pretty they are, or what a good job they're doing.

Yes, I am aware that this makes me sound horrendously obnoxious, and perhaps even a little narcissistic, but what can I say, I'm a Leo - it's in my DNA.

And you can't tell me that hearing the words 'good girl' in a French accent wouldn't drive you wild.

Those two words sure work on me. And I bet if you heard them, they would work on you, too.

Okay, so men like that, the ones who know exactly what they're doing and actively encourage your cheeky kink are perhaps few and far between.

But there are plenty of other tips and tricks to help us really maximize our time between the sheets – from taking an anatomy class (yes, men, I'm talking to you) to asking your partner what they really want and need.

You can't tell me that hearing the words 'good girl' in a French accent wouldn't drive you wild

I threw the question out to you, dear readers, on what specific thing can make sex worth the wobbly knees afterwards, and you delivered in spades.

Here are some of the best ones I pulled from my Instagram DMs and, honestly, they're worth their weight in gold.

One woman told me she 'preps' herself throughout the day by thinking about sex and what turns her on. 'I clench and release while doing this,' she said. 'It gets the blood flowing and I'm more than ready to go.'

Even with an amazing partner and a healthy sex life, she admitted she can still struggle to finish. 'So doing this gives me a good starting point.'

Another woman was refreshingly direct and laid it out step by step. Men, this one is gold.

It starts the night before, sleeping naked. Morning spooning with a light fondle, then a shower together before coffee. Add in sweet or sexy texts throughout the day, her partner taking charge of dinner, and finally dessert - which is obviously her.

She says the slow build results in the most Earth-shattering orgasms.

As the onlooker in When Harry Met Sally famously puts it, 'I'll have what she's having.'

Because somewhere between the rom-com fantasy and the real-life fumbling there's a version of sex that's actually quite wonderful.

And whether it's a day of delicious anticipation, or two little words that come at just the right moment, the key to enjoying it for real is to just stop pretending.